As the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University, Dr. Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter: is it speed? Strength? Agility? In Dr. Joseph’s TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.
Gist of the talk, how do you build self confidence:
“Confidence is a SKILL you can build”
1. Build it by practicing! The more you have tried something over and over again the more confident you become. Practice, repeat and persevere. The more you fail and keep going, the more confident you’ll be
2. Stop the negative self talk. You’re shooting yourself in the foot, tell yourself “I am the greatest!”. You’ll be surprised at how much that helps you keep going.
3. Get away from the negative people. You’re already struggling not to tell yourself “God I look fat, I’m no good at this” You don’t need other people to make this even worse.
4. Build other people’s confidence: Focus on what people do well. Don’t try to correct their mistakes
5. Interpret feedback in a way that builds your confidence. Instead of “Wow that interview went shitty. I gave a terrible answer to 8/10 questions.” say “Hey I did 2/10 questions pretty good! I’m gonna ace those on the next interview!”
References:
Video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=njESlZa2b10
TEDx Channel Link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsT0YIqwnpJCM-mx7-gSA4Q
